Do not reach out to the man’s girlfriend and act like you are helping her out, you know you are not helping anything. Deliberate pain is a form of emotional abuse that you are inflicting on a total, unexpected, unprovoked bystander. The amazing thing of it all is that you even try to justify your actions by qualifying your behavior. Nothing you say is helpful! Let’s get that straight! Instead what happened is you got shot down, and with some incriminating evidence you “help” the other girl out! You are not helping, but instead you are just as bad as the man who kept that interaction going. The crazy thing is those inflictions stem from whatever it was that happened to you. The question is… Who hurt you? No one should be hurt so badly they want to repay the favor. I heard a lady say “he’s not married!” That might be true, but it is NOT your place to decided where the relationship is headed. This is important to know that you will always be disrespected by the guys you date, and no man wants to settle down with someone who cannot calm down.